The Elephant in the Room

Chenita Rountree Uncategorized Leave a Comment

The nuances of a romantic relationship are multi-faceted. From the dating, romance, and passion to the differences, power struggles, and disappointments, the average couple can experience all stops along this journey to couple-dom. Couples are strongly encouraged to enjoy the dates, the long talks about nothing, the cuddles, or whatever makes them smile. Enjoy every moment of these new experiences …

It’s Not You, It’s Me

Tim Horvath Uncategorized Leave a Comment

Throughout the course of therapy, people are often surprised when I advocate for something called “self-focus.” It is difficult for clients to wrap their minds around the fact that it may be good or helpful to pay close attention to themselves, even more so than others in different situations. Why is this so? The notion of being focused on the …

Sex and Candy? I prefer Sex and Cookies!

Dr. Krista Nabar Uncategorized Leave a Comment

When you start doing therapy, one of the things that you may notice, and that may even be irritating at times, is that you really don’t get to know much about your therapist. This is by design, as the process of therapy is really about focusing as much as possible on what you are bringing to the table without getting …

Family Matters

Meagan Thomas Uncategorized Leave a Comment

Family can be such a loaded topic for people! It can bring up so many thoughts, feelings, memories, and associations. For some, those experiences and memories are positive, tied to fond memories, nostalgia, connection and love. For others, those feelings and associations may be negative, bringing up memories of abuse or neglect, fraught relationships, or feelings of inadequacy . Whatever …

More Than Monogamy

Meagan Thomas Uncategorized Leave a Comment

What are we?” “What does this mean?” “Is this something my partner will be ok with?” “How do I tell my partner I need something I am not getting?” All of these are valid questions when getting involved with someone, especially sexually. Too often when we start relationships, partners are on different pages when it comes to defining their relationship. …

How You Define Sex Matters!

Jasmin Ahluwalia Uncategorized Leave a Comment

What is sex?  Is it about intercourse? Is it about orgasm? Does it include penis and/or vagina? What is your definition of sex? Does this definition of sex allow you to fully explore and connect with your sexuality or does it limit your expression of sexuality?  How you define sex matters as that can influence your sexual attitudes and beliefs …

Let’s Talk About Postpartum Sex!

Meagan Thomas Uncategorized Leave a Comment

Relationships change.  We all know this.  But do we really understand what that means?  Relationships can change for a variety of reasons, one of the biggest ones being after a child comes into the family.  A couple can go from having sexual encounters many times a week….to none at all (at least for the first few weeks).  This can result …

The Myth of True Love

Tim Horvath Uncategorized Leave a Comment

In the wake of Valentine’s Day, the topic of love lingers like a thick cloud in our cultural air. Ideas about “true love” bombard us in candy hearts, pop songs, and Disney princesses. Such commodities and messages promise us sparks of lasting romance, if only we can find that one person who would provoke such feelings in us. We long …

Perceptions and Popular Misconceptions about Porn

Dr. Krista Nabar Uncategorized Leave a Comment

Let me just come right out and state the premise of this blog post: Pornography is not sex education. For some, this may seem obvious. However, in my work as a sex therapist I see case after case of people struggling as they are not living up to “societal” expectations of themselves as sexual beings. These expectations are often reflected …

Sex is a Mirror

Tim Horvath Uncategorized Leave a Comment

We all look in the mirror. Some of us may look in the mirror daily; others may try to avoid mirrors at all costs. Why is this so? Mirrors reflect part of our identity back to us. Mirrors reveal the reality of what we look like in the world. While we each have our own subjective experience of ourselves, mirrors …